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  1. aa 12 steps a closer walk Tom Evans

    Hello Mary…
    I followed the link to your site from alcoholicshare group. I have been sober in AA for nearly 18 years. I am always interested in what other sober members think that the 12 steps are all about. I live in Townsville pop approx. 160k in North Qld Australia. We have a fairly strong fellowship with at least 2-3 meetings every day. My observations have been over the last 18 years, that many people indeed do get sober and improve their lives, however many don’t and some of them die miserably. For me, the program worked spectacularly, so why doesn’t it work the same way for others? I believe it is because there is misunderstanding and a watering down of what the BB actually says. You cannot give to another, understanding, you can only share your experience. The BB states explicitly that the “main object of the book is to enable you to find a power greater than yourself which will solve your problem” p45. And it is here that I believe the confusion sets in. We try to solve the problem instead of allowing our HP to do so. I hope Mary, that we may have a very interesting discussion. I will comment on powerlessness in your post at a later time….meanwhile , I commend you for what you are trying to do. The more information we can give from our heart and our experience can only be good news in the long run. Kind regards Tom

    • aa 12 steps a closer walk magknj72@gmail.com

      Thank you so much, Tom! I totally agree about finding that Higher Power. I didn’t realize until after being sober for a year I had been rebelling against that Higher Power and that is why I drank and did some of the things I did. As far as why some get sober and some don’t, in my opinion, has to do with spirituality. I remember hearing the phrase ‘to cure the demon alcohol’ in a movie once. But that is a completely different subject.

  2. aa 12 steps a closer walk

    Hi Mary

    Great post. I agree that the 12 steps can be used in everyones life as far as living and being better people.

    Thanks for sharing
    #IBA

  3. aa 12 steps a closer walk Mary Dolan Flaherty

    Amen to that! I lived with an alcoholic husband and my dad is an alcoholic. I attended many Al Anon meetings and Christian recovery groups based on the 12 steps. I completely agree that the 12 Steps are great for trying to overcome any addiction or even just something that we struggle with. Your neighbor at Messy Marriage.

  4. aa 12 steps a closer walk

    Hello, I wanted to answer Tom’s question as to why it doesn’t work for some. That is because AA is not for everyone. Believe me when I say that. I am living proof. For 25 years I was in and out of AA, treatments, detoxs ,about 50 times approximately. I do not say that proudly. Finally last June I admitted myself to the hospital before I took a bottle of pills. Found out I’m bi-polar, major depression, blah, blah. Anyways, since being on the medications, my depression has stabilized and have not had even a single though of having a drink since then. And I know some that see this will say something about being depressed because I drank, but it was quite the opposite, The depression came first, as far back as elementary school. I just wanted to put that out there because there might be someone else like me that just doesn’t feel like they “fit” in AA.
    I thank you for your article because it will help people.

    Kristine :)

    • aa 12 steps a closer walk magknj72@gmail.com

      Thanks Kristine! So glad that you were able to get things figured out. I understand that AA is not for everyone, it wasn’t for my mom. These articles I right about each step is to show how they can be used for other issues besides addiction. Replace ‘alcohol’ with whatever the problem is.

    • aa 12 steps a closer walk magknj72@gmail.com

      Thanks Marissa! I have a post for each step up to 9 right now….showing how they can be applied to more than just addiction.

  5. aa 12 steps a closer walk

    The image I have of AA is of a group of people working together to overcome their personal struggles and become better versions of themselves.
    Thanks for sharing it, Mary.

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